Recently at Pause, we have been thinking a lot about the importance of self-care. Prioritising your own wellbeing can be difficult when you’ve had a child removed from your care, because of feelings of guilt and other negative emotions. But taking time for yourself is not selfish. Below are some words of affirmation from a woman with experience of the Pause Programme.
Lighten up on self-criticism and load up on self-care
Summer holidays and the start of the new school year can be a triggering and difficult time for women who have had children removed from their care, as it can bring up certain thoughts and emotions. These emotions are valid but they also do not define you as a person. It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself and make sure your happiness is a priority.
Only good can come from surpassing the obstacles we thought were impossible to overcome, big journeys start with small steps:
- Try to focus on your strengths – write them down if it helps. Focus on talking positively to yourself and become your own cheerleader and supporter.
- Try to focus on positive energy. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and let go of anything that brings negativity into your life.
- Remember your passions! Finding time to engage in activities you enjoy can boost your self-esteem.
- Try to step out and get ready to explore new friendships, new opportunities, new talents and new victories.
Living a peaceful life is about being in harmony with yourself and the surrounding world. Peace grows from within. Once your mind is at ease, you will start to see the effects in everything and everyone surrounding you. Being at peace certainly doesn’t mean you have a perfect life, but when you feel at peace with yourself, you are content to be the person you are, with flaws and everything.
You can find more resources and words of affirmation on our self-care resources page.